A Panney For Your Thoughts

Sharing Wisdom, Inspiration, Tips on Personal & Professional Transformation So You Can Reach Your Potential and Create the Life of Your Dreams 
 by Panney Wei, C.Ht.

Date: 5/23/2016 11:18 PM UTC


1. How do you see your role in changing the world?
I believe that everyone has a calling and a purpose that they must fulfill in this life. It may take some time to discover; it can be something powerful that will create a ripple effect in the world; it can be something big or small, but nevertheless it is for only you to fulfill. I believe my purpose and calling is to help change the world and make a difference by improving humanity in some way. I believe my calling is to help people transform their lives spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, and achieve success and happiness in their personal and professional lives, and help those, whether it’s an organization or an individual person, achieve their greatest potential and the highest vision of themselves, and help them overcome obstacles in their environment or self-imposed, so they can create the life of their dreams. I was always taught that we should live a life of service or do something that will add value, inspiration, and meaning to the lives of others, something that will help your industry, community, or the world at large. My mother was a person who lived so artfully in the way she brought our home together and how she fashioned herself and filled her life with art and a passion for living. My father was someone who dedicated his life to helping others through his work as a physician specializing in cardiology and then internal medicine, and my maternal grandfather served as a Senator in Taiwan for many years. All of them influenced my life and were able to be of service to their community, family, or the world in a way that utilized their unique strengths. I also believe that when you endure hardship and struggle, the compassion you gain can often propel you into a life of service. Everyone has the capacity to change the world should they take on the calling and pursue it. Part of my role in changing the world is helping people to perceive things differently in their lives and create transformation. I believe that change in the world first begins with change in oneself. It’s like Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” I’ve seen in the lives of my clients who I help that lasting change can occur in your environment as a direct result of changing oneself. This is because of the law of cause and effect. When you change your actions and reactions to people and challenging circumstances, and live with self-awareness, everything around you has to adapt and will therefore change as well. Sun-Tzu also says, “If you know the enemy and know yourself you need not fear the results of a hundred battles.”  When you live with self-awareness and know who you are, you will be grounded in any situation, and achieve more happiness in life, so ultimately my goal is to help people discover the truth of who they are so they can start living a purpose driven and conscious life.
On that note, I see much of my role in changing the world with the mission to help many people as possible transform their lives in as many platforms as possible, because the more people I reach, the more I can help, and the more I can help, the more I can make a difference in the world. Whether it’s through the media, my writing, podcast, See the Way with Panney Wei, doing sessions, speaking to people and running workshops, all of these outlets are ways where I can connect with my clients, listeners, and audience in a positive way where I can affect change in their lives and in the world. So I see my role in the world as a change agent, and it’s a role I take seriously in guiding people to take charge of their lives by living a life of self-awareness, break through obstacles, and live a life of their dreams.  Dreams take time and an incredible amount of patience, but you can make it happen. I love this quote by Harriet Tubman, “Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” It’s so true! Don’t give up and believe that you can be a person that will make a difference in the world!

2. What is your passion?
My passions are my family, my life purpose, shattering negative stereotypes of Asian Americans in our community through the media and other outlets, and making a difference in the world, and working with people, especially women, to live the life of their dreams. When I survived my near-death experience when I was about 20 and recovered from it, the lessons I learned was that life is short, that you should take time to discover what your passions are, and the time you live on earth is precious and should be well-spent. Take time to nurture your relationships, do some self-reflection, and find what you’re passionate about, and then go out in the world and just do it. Nothing is more important than living a life that has purpose and meaning to you. Because I’ve faced some injustice as an Asian American and as a woman in this lifetime and have had to overcome obstacles, it was important for me to do something about it and make a difference. That’s part of the reason why I founded and launched (as the first Founding National Director) in 2008, the women’s national leadership program, Women in NAAAP, which was recognized in Forbes Women. My intention and purpose was to support, educate, and empower women in various stages of life and career so they can achieve true success in their personal and professional lives. This has been a lifelong passion of mine. So even if you haven’t discovered your purpose or passion yet, take the time to reinvigorate or invite some passion into other areas of your life. It could be a hobby, a cause you believe in, or experiencing some aspect of culture through art. Life should be full of passion, and my mother was a good example of someone who did that. She always inspired me to live artfully and fill one’s life with beauty, art, culture, and passion.

3. What are some things that you can't leave the house without?
My IPhone, purse, pen and journal for ideas and notes, and lipstick.

4. Name 3 people you admire and why
My Father, Dr. John Wei, M.D.:
The first person I admire the most would be my father, who is one of the most reliable, kindest, brilliant, and most visionary man in my life. My father always had a dream in his heart to go to America and create a better life for us. He had a vision for our family and was brave enough to leave everything behind in order to take our young family from Taiwan to the United States in the late 1970’s to create better opportunities for us and achieve his dreams and a better future for our family. Even after he completed his medical school and residency in Taiwan, he chose to re-do his medical residency training in cardiology and internal medicine all over again to fit into the US’s requirements to practice medicine in the United States. That was a long hard road for him and required so much sacrifice to do an additional five to six years of schooling just to start a new life in the United States. But he did it and over the course of his professional life, rose to become Chief Resident in the hospital where he worked, then later Chief of Staff, among other accolades he received and was awarded during his career. When I look back at his life and how he barely spoke English when he came to America to becoming Chief of Staff at his hospital and then starting his own successful medical practice, I am humbled and impressed by his accomplishments. It was definitely not an easy feat. My early memories of living in in the East Coast as a kid were fraught with memories and moments of racism, discrimination, and hardship. I remember when we lived in Missouri; there were not a lot of Asian people in the city we lived in. We seemed to be the only ones around besides one other Chinese family that lived in our building. The housing provided by my dad’s employer was an apartment complex where all the minorities lived. Because of discrimination or blatant racism, minorities in our community were not allowed to live with white people. It was one apartment building full of people from all different cultures and ethnicities jammed into one building.  Even if the outside world was harsh, inside this apartment building, it was alive and buzzing with people from all walks of life, the smells of all different types of food cooking, the sounds of all the languages being spoken, and kids playing in the hallways. It was quite a colorful experience because no one spoke English well but yet we were all able to communicate with each other and be a community. Those were my early memories. Whatever small income my father made as a medical school resident and moonlighting at night, half of it went back to his parents in Taiwan, so we were a small family of five at the time living in very tough and meager circumstances, barely surviving. But I think back on what we overcame as a family and our humble beginnings in America, and I feel so proud of my father and my parents together as a team to create a better life and the life of their dreams. I remember finally leaving the cold of the east to move to Los Angeles, California to be near family, the warmth, and to seek better opportunities. My father worked so hard, working on his hospital salary by day and constantly on call whenever he could to make and save more money; he was saving for his dream of starting his own practice one day. One day that moment happened and I will never forget it. I was around nine years old, when my father came home ecstatic because his dream had finally come true! He was offered an opportunity to purchase his colleague’s medical practice and start his own clinic practicing internal medicine in Los Angeles.  He had the vision from the very beginning as an immigrant coming to America to start his own business. That was his American Dream and it may have taken many years, but he made it come true!  So as you can see, my father’s presence in my life has been an incredible example and influence on me of what it means to be a true success and a great leader: hard work, patience, resilience, strength to overcome obstacles like racism, injustice, humility, devotion to family, having the charisma and inspiration to elevate others and lead, and achieving the American Dream. So to me, my father is the person I most admire and honor. And my parents, I honor and respect them for giving us life itself. They made countless sacrifices as they cared for and led us through childhood, provided us with the necessities of life, through all the hardship, the moving from country to new country, home to new home, city to new city, starting over, as many times as it took until we found the right place to be to start our American Dream. I love my father and my mother too, and honor them with my life right now, living it the best way I can and being a reflection of all their lessons and sacrifice. I’m really proud to be their daughter and very proud to inherit so many of father’s physical traits, values, and morals, and to carry on our family legacy through service to others.

My maternal Grandfather, Senator Albert Liu:
The second person that I admire the most is my maternal grandfather, Senator Albert Liu, who served the Taiwanese government as a Senator for almost 30 years until his retirement. I’m so grateful I had the chance to have a relationship with him while he was living. He was a wonderful role model about living a life of service to his people, his community, and country. He was an eloquent, honorable, and wise man, and could hit a tennis ball like no other. I thank him and honor him for the life he gave my mother.  I have wonderful memories of playing tennis with him, listening to stories about all his travels, his politics, and learning about the history of China and Taiwan through his experiences in the Taiwan Senate and hearing stories about my mother’s family. He also inspired me to live a life with a consciousness of improving humanity, exposing me to the values of loyalty to one’s country, to bettering the life of others in our community and the world, and living a life of service. My grandfather was a great presence, calm, ambitious, and accomplished much in his life for his country that he loved dearly, while raising a family. He escaped China with his family, which included my mother at the time, in 1949 when the communists invaded China, and traveled to Taiwan by boat in order to give them a better life of freedom and new beginnings. I will always remember him and honor him and share his legacy to future generations including my daughter. It’s about building a greater foundation for each generation. That’s our job as parents and leaders, to take the best attributes of every generation and continue sharing the stories of the past, and incorporate them into our lives so they provide a stronger foundation for future generations and our descendants. There is power and strength in knowing one’s family history. It connects you to the past, so that you have the support and wings to fly as you move into the future. So I’m grateful for my grandfather, Senator Albert Liu, for his influence in my life. He was a true inspiration in mine!

My paternal Great-great Granduncle, General Tso Tsung-Tang:
The third person that I most admire and very influenced by is my paternal great-great granduncle, General Tso Tsung-Tang, who lived during the Qing dynasty and was best known as General Tso in the West and immortalized in popular culture and American Chinese cuisine with the famous dish, General Tso’s chicken, which was named in his honor. He was a visionary Chinese statesman and military leader and granted the titles of nobility, First Class Count Kejing and Second Class Marquis Kejing and later Wenxiang by the Qing imperial court. He was well-known for his military conquests, ending the Taiping rebellion which threatened to break up China, putting down another uprising, the Nian Rebellion, and most prominently, conquering the entire Xinjiang province for China. He was also a visionary leader and founded China’s first modern shipyard and naval academy in Fuzhou, which helped to increase trade and relations for China. I look at his legacy and see that he was peacemaker, and had a gift of communicating and leading people from all walks of life. He had an amazing way of connecting with anyone across his path, whether it was a person who lived in the villages and worked on the farms, to his soldiers who followed his lead, or communicating with the nobility in the Qing imperial court, all at the same time. He was really a leader of the people and that’s what I strive to be as well, to have that kind of connection where I can be of service to anyone I come across.  I think what I also gained from his legacy through the stories my father shared with me was that he was the epitome of a great leader: humble, strong, resilient, intelligent, a person of integrity and good values, poetic in heart, strong in spirit, one that like Alexander the Great, could empower his people to make change for themselves, and was inspiring. He improved the economic circumstances of the peasantry and believed traditional Chinese philosophy would help heal feelings of anxiety and unrest among his people, which ultimately led him to create more printing presses to publish the Chinese classics, an endeavor he’s credited for with inspiring later printing presses in China. He was a poet, a calligrapher, and led his people to peace and great victory in China, and served the Empress Dowager and Emperor very well during his time on Earth. He was a man of many talents and so what I took from his life was that it was important to live a rich life, experiencing it to the fullest, and the importance of pursuing all of your passions so you don’t have a bucket of regrets, but rather a bucket list that you’ve been able to accomplish. My ancestor also inspires and influences me to be a well-rounded person that has passion in many areas of life, because he was a person who used all of his talents in service to his people, to improving culture and society. That is what I strive for as well, to live a life rich and full of meaning, that I use all of my talents and abilities to enrich and enlighten the life of others, to live a life in service to others, to make a difference in this world, and leave a lasting legacy that I hope will be felt for many years to come.

5. Who has been the biggest influence on your life?  What lessons did that
person teach you? 
It’s not one person but truly one couple that has been the biggest influence in my life, and that one couple would be my parents, my father, Dr. John Wei, and my mother, Mrs. Annie Wei. Their partnership has been the most influential in my life. They were an example of real team and partnership, of sacrifice, vision, and working to make their dreams happen together. My father couldn’t pursue his passion and dreams without the support of my mother. She sacrificed a lot and gave up her career as a fashion designer and business owner in order to raise our family while my father could pursue his dreams, as so many mothers have done previously in our parent’s generation. That was something done back then. But now, women can have many different choices, and you don’t have to give up your identity or a career you love in order to raise a family. Women have the opportunity to decide what’s best for them in tandem with their partner and family. My parent’s presence in my life has influenced me to be a more compassionate person, more tolerant in my life towards difficulties and challenges, more patient when it comes to reaching my goals, and more resilient. They taught me to strive for excellence in all I do, and gave me opportunities through figure skating, sports, exposure to art, and other pursuits in my life to see what it takes and to develop the values, skills, the drive, and resilience necessary to make any of your dreams come true in any aspect of your life, whether personal or professional. I am most grateful for them for the opportunities they gave me, opportunities they did not have. They were tough and strict, and that toughness rubbed off on me in the best way. They may have brushed through certain areas and gave us just the Cliff notes of life, skimming the surface on some things, but looking on the bright side, at least they gave us some freedom to figure things out on our own. That has been a blessing. They taught me that life was tough, and that it wouldn’t be easy, and that goals in love, life, marriage, and personal dreams could take months and years to manifest. But they instilled in me the important values that I carry with me now as a parent, and values I now share as a leader; to always do the right thing, to have a good heart, integrity in all you do, to be a good person and example to others, to be respectful, kind in how you treat people, fair and firm if necessary, and if you need to part ways with people, always do it with class, and dignity, and self-respect. I wanted to share a quote from Nobel Prize winning Physicist Marie Curie that pretty much sums up their presence in my life and the essence of the lessons they shared with me, “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.”  This is the essence of their partnership and influence of my parent’s life on me. I have so much love for them and all the lessons they instilled in me, which I now pass on to future generations, especially my daughter.

6. What traditions have been passed down in your family?
I think every family has its traditions that get passed down in a family. Ours has everything to do with our family. We like to have family reunions at every major holiday to keep in touch. We have a large family on both sides, so it’s important to stay connected. We place value on understanding the past and our family’s history to help us stay grounded and confident as we move forward in life and carry some of the family traditions and values to future generations. Being Chinese, my parents also recognize the day of someone’s death in the family, a time to recognize the life of the person and to celebrate their life and legacy. This is a tradition that occurs in many cultures including ours. But I would have to say family connection is of utmost importance and a tradition we maintain in our family. It takes effort but it’s worth it.

7. How has diversity changed in the last ten years?
If you’re referencing our culture and society, I think we have become a more inclusive and diverse culture over time, especially in the last 10 years. We’ve witnessed the nomination and election of our first African American president, President Barack Obama, and maybe in the near future, we will see the election of our first female president or even an Asian American president within our lifetime. These have been tremendous strides for our community, especially the collective consciousness of our world in moving towards a time where race and gender are always part of the conversation and an awareness of the necessity of creating a more equal and equitable society for all. But there are some areas of life and American society which racism or discrimination still occurs, such as what’s happening in the entertainment industry regarding the issue of opportunity and fair representation of society in the media and behind the screen. The “#OscarsSoWhite” issue that came up with our recent Academy Awards and the negative, unintelligent jokes that we were written and then delivered by Chris Rock were disappointing. I couldn’t believe what I was witnessing at the awards show, and the discomfort for everyone in the room, especially for people of color, was palpable. Now, the issue is the whitewashing of Asian American faces in the media through the casting of Emma Stone in Aloha, Scarlett Johansson in Ghosts in the Shell, and Tilda Swinton as the Ancient One in Dr. Strange. I almost think that whitewashing is worse than the lack of diversity and casting of Asian faces in more roles on TV and film. There is an awareness in certain industries and in the entertainment industry that diversity and inclusion is important however there is a lack of initiative or fear in making diversity and fair representation happen. I recently had the opportunity to speak with actor and activist, George Takei in my home, best known as Mr. Sulu in Star Trek, and he mentioned that stereotypes especially negative stereotypes of Asians can be very dangerous. Negative stereotypes that white people thought Asian people were like caused his family to be interned in prison camps as a Japanese American after the Second World War.  This had a life changing transformative effect in Takei’s life, so much so that he is an activist, and recently was part of the group of Asian American Academy members that wrote a letter to the Academy denigrating the outrageous stereotyping of Asian Americans during the Oscars, even to the point of using innocent children as the butt of their jokes. So this is a serious issue that affects all of us in the Asian Pacific community whether we like it or not. The reason why we must all support diversity in all industries, especially programming in TV and film, is because the media can be used as a powerful and influential tool for good or for evil. It can be used to perpetuate negative stereotypes into the collective unconscious and subconscious dialogue of society that will eventually affect the roles we play in our individual communities and industries we live and work in. It is one of the reasons why when I was a child, my family was placed in an apartment building full of other minorities because as Asians, we were not able or allowed to get housing with whites. This was in the 1970’s, but racism existed at that time and our society has gotten better and come a long way, but there is still so much work to be done in other areas that discrimination or a lack of inclusion is still felt.
So because of my life experience, I am very passionate about changing and breaking these negative stereotypes that exist and very active in my community as an activist to change things and make a difference in improving the lives of people in our community so we get a fair shot at the table. My husband and I are involved with fantastic groups like NAAAP, The Coalition of Asian Pacifics in Entertainment, APIA Vote, and other groups. Even in the work we do as individuals is all devoted to inspiring people and helping them change the way people perceive Asian Americans in society at large (my work as a hypnotherapist/motivational speaker/TV-radio host, and host of See the Way with Panney Wei and my husband, Christopher Chen’s work as a producer; many of his recent films, Year of the Yao, Linsanity, Sneakerheadz, and Looper help to defy negative stereotypes of Asian Americans and instead, elevate our community). My message to our community is that people may underestimate you in your lifetime, but if you have a humble heart, work hard, speak up, stay strong, and you bide your time, the truth will always be revealed. We, as a community, will rise!

BIO: Panney Wei is an award-winning writer, TV-Radio host, hypnotherapist, and motivational speaker on the power of the mind and achieving one’s potential, inspiring people to break through negative patterns, overcome obstacles, and achieve their dreams in their personal and professional lives. She is the recipient of the “Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business” award, The National Association of Asian MBA’s (now ASCEND) “Top 40 Global Emerging Leaders” award, an Honoree for the Los Angeles Business Journal’s Women Making a Difference Awards and the San Fernando Valley Business Journal’s Women in Business awards, and featured in the “First 100 People” project for TaiwaneseAmerica.org. Panney is the CEO of See the Way Consulting, giving individuals the tools, solutions, wisdom, both personally, professionally, and spiritually, to overcome life’s obstacles, achieve their potential, and manifest the life of their dreams. Panney has been featured on countless radio shows nationwide and provided trainings and worked with Fortune 500 companies such as McDonalds, NBA TV, OWN, Discovery Channel, Center for Nonprofit Success, Raytheon, Kimberly-Clark, Oracle, The Filipino Women’s Summit, Society of Asian Scientists and Engineers, among others. Panney helps to identify the core issues and reasons for existing problems, and provide the insight, acknowledgement, and feedback clients desire, and the energy, inspiration, and the courage to manifest their dreams and to not only endure, but overcome their challenges, and thrive.  She is the producer and host of her podcast, “See the Way with Panney Wei”, featured on her website, www.panneywei.com and ITunes for your weekly dose of inspiration, positive messages, and interviews with some of the brightest minds, leaders in every industry, bestselling authors, and thought-leaders in our world. Granddaughter to Taiwan Senator Albert Liu and Great Grand-niece to one of China’s greatest statesmen, General Tso Tsung-Tang, famous for his dish “General Tso’s chicken”, Panney continues their legacy of activism and service in empowering organizations that are making a difference.  She holds the title of Honorary Goodwill Ambassador of California designated by former California Secretary of State March Fong Eu, and serves as State Secretary for the California Democratic Party Asian Pacific Islander Caucus, Senior Advisor for the National Association of Asian American Professionals (NAAAP), The National Asian Artist Project, NAAAP Orange County, Toronto, LA, and San Diego, and was the Founder and Founding National Director for Women in NAAAP (WIN!), a national women’s leadership program featured in Forbes Women and launched in 2008 to empower and develop female leaders in the Asian Pacific Islander community.  Panney is recently featured in the documentary film, Quantum Wisdom, (www.quantumwisdomfilm.com), as its host and one of the spiritual teachers, and is working on her first book on attracting the love of your life. She shares advice and stories on life, career, love, and motherhood through her newsletter, website, and blog, A Panney For Your Thoughts. Panney is married to Endgame Executive Vice President and Producer Christopher Chen (Looper, Linsanity, Year of the Yao, So Goes the Nation, Sneakerheadz, and Every Little Step, which was shortlisted for the Oscars) and has a daughter, Talia. www.panneywei.com

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Date: 5/14/2016 10:24 PM UTC

--> What does API Heritage month mean to me? It means reminding us of our continuing influence, the growing potential of our community, and the power we have collectively as change agents in American society. Throughout American history, the Asian Pacific community has been attacked, disrespected, or even excluded (remember the Chinese Exclusion Act of 1882, the internment of hundreds of Japanese Americans post World War II, and even what’s happening now, the controversy surrounding the #OscarsSoWhite and the deliberate whitewashing of Asian Americans in the media). But these challenges happen in life both individually and collectively as a community to make us stronger, bolder, and wiser. Stephen Covey once said, “I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.” What happens to us as a community should not define us; instead it’s how we rise from these challenges in life that define who we are as a people and determines our character. We are incredibly resilient people. Let API Heritage Month be a lovely reminder that even if we are living in times where people are still being discriminated against, and we have survived the roles or rules of the circumstances we were born into or immigrated into and shaped by, that we can always change the course of our destiny, and break the chains of whatever’s holding us back around you, and continue to forge ahead and continue to make a difference in society. This is the time of the year where our community gathers together to embrace our culture, our values and virtues, and celebrate the achievements of all the amazing individuals and leaders in our community that have helped shape the fabric of society, made a difference in the world, and contributed to our community and our culture.  From the Chinese immigrants who laid down their lives to help build the transcontinental railroad to AIDs researcher, Dr. David Ho, who was TIME’s Man of the Year in 1996, to Ang Lee’s Oscar winning Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, to my husband, Christopher Chen’s film, Linsanity, which captured the journey of our friend, Jeremy Lin, on his road to the NBA, James Beard award winning Chef David Chang of Momofuku, Cellist Yo-Yo Ma, Vietnam Veterans Memorial architect Maya Lin, author Amy Tan, or founder of Yahoo, Jerry Yang, we are prevalent and present in American society, included whether you like or not and inclusive, and there’s no stopping us. So let this month be a time of true celebration for our community, honoring our ancestors who paved the way, and the trailblazers who emblazoned them, and recognize the accomplishments of our fellow leaders in every industry. It’s because of all of our contributions and those before us that American culture is richer because of us, and better as well. That is the purpose of Asian Pacific Islander Heritage month to me! And as a parent, I feel it’s even more important now for my daughter to embrace how she looks, feels, and exists in the world as an Asian American and what that means, and for all of our children, descendants, and future generations, to understand their history, legacy, and where they came from. Knowledge is power and knowing one’s history provides purpose, stability, and the foundation necessary to keep you grounded as you spread your wings and embark on new passions, visions, and dreams for your future, for the Asian American community, and for all people, leaving a lasting legacy that will be enjoyed and cherished for years to come. Wishing everyone a Happy Asian Pacific Islander Heritage Month from our family to yours!  

BIO: Panney Wei is an award-winning writer, TV-Radio host, hypnotherapist, and motivational speaker on the power of the mind and achieving one’s potential, inspiring people to break negative patterns and achieve their dreams in love and life. She is the recipient of the “Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business” award, The National Association of Asian MBA’s (now ASCEND) “Top 40 Global Emerging Leaders” award, an Honoree for the Los Angeles Business Journal’s Women Making a Difference Awards and the San Fernando Valley Business Journal’s Women in Business awards, and featured in the “First 100 People” project for TaiwaneseAmerica.org. Panney is the CEO of See the Way Consulting, giving people the tools, wisdom, personally, professionally, and spiritually, and the courage to overcome life’s obstacles, achieve their potential, and manifest the life of their dreams. As a mentor, coach, and guide to her clients, she helps to identify the core issues and reasons for existing problems, she is able to give them the solutions, insight, acknowledgement, and feedback they desire, and the energy, inspiration, and the courage to manifest their dreams and to not only endure, but overcome their challenges.  Panney is the host of “See the Way with Panney Wei” featured on her website, www.panneywei.com and ITunes for your weekly dose of inspiration and interviews with some of the brightest minds and bestselling authors and experts in our world. Granddaughter to Taiwan Senator Albert Liu and Great Grand-niece to one of China’s greatest statesmen, General Tso Tsung-Tang, famous for his dish “General Tso’s chicken”, Panney continues their legacy of service, serving as a Senior Advisor for the National Association of Asian American Professionals (NAAAP), The National Asian Artist Project, and NAAAP Orange County, Toronto, LA, and San Diego, and Women in NAAAP (WIN!), a national women’s leadership she founded in 2008 to empower and develop female leaders featured in Forbes Women.  Panney is working on her first book on attracting the love of your life and shares her advice on life, career, love, and motherhood through her blog A Panney For Your Thoughts. She is married to Endgame Executive Vice President and Producer Christopher Chen (Looper, Linsanity, Year of the Yao, Sneakerheadz, and Every Little Step, which was shortlisted for the Oscars) and has a daughter, Talia. www.panneywei.com

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:55 AM UTC

Panney and Talia in New APIAVote Ad Airing Nationally on NBC!
HI everyone!
Well, it's been a year since my daughter Talia was born, and we are appearing together
in a new PSA for APIAVote to encourage people to vote in the upcoming election.
You can watch APIAVote's public service announcement on their YouTube channel at:
and help spread the word by sharing the video with 5 friends and family through
Facebook, Twitter and email.
Talia and I are so honored to be asked to debut together in this important announcement.
Please share it with friends and family. APIAVote asks you, "What do you want?"
When you exercise your right to vote, you're taking a stand for your values, your
family and your community.
Thanks to our partners at Comcast, this PSA started airing nationwide on NBC on
October 24, 2011. It will serve as a great reminder for voters to take action on
Tuesday, November 8, 2011 and cast their ballot for many local elections.
The PSA was co-produced by the Center for Asian American Media and Director/ Producer,
Anson Ho, of Arowana Films production.
Whoot! Whoot!

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:54 AM UTC

"Creating Positive Change with Panney Wei" Radio show on KCAA 1050 AM, NBC News

Ranked TOP 100 BEST PODCASTS in Spirituality. My show is focused on entertainment, empowerment, and enlivening our listeners with a motivational message each and every week to
help people thrive and succeed in love, life, career, and health, and live a life
beyond their wildest dreams! We've got NY Times bestselling authors, experts in
various fields, entertainers, philosophers and more! Show topics for December:
DEC. 3: Gratitude unlocks the Door to Achieving and Getting more
DEC. 10: Top 10 Virtues of a Champion and Achieving your Personal Best
DEC. 17: Interview with Esther Goodhart, standup comedian and currently featured
in the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery exhibit "Growing Our Circles - Portraiture
Now - Asian American Portraits of Encounter"
DEC. 24: Interview with Sarah Miller Caldicott, Great Grandniece of Thomas Edison,
talking about her book, Inventing the Future, Edison's tools for success and innovation,
and fascinating stories on how Edison would live his life now.

Listen immediately here: www.panneywei.com

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:53 AM UTC

Hypnosis Today guest-hosted by Panney Wei, C.Ht.

Whoohoo! I'm branching out to web TV and guest-hosting a new show called Hypnosis Today, the nation's first Web TV talk show featuring various topics on the fascinating world of hypnotherapy. The show will air on hmiwebtv.com and the topics I'll be talking about with my upcoming guests are universal: the fear of success, work-life balance, test-taking or performance anxiety, and chronic pain and life purpose. Look for my episodes of Hypnosis Today which will air very soon onhmiwebtv.com

You'll see me in action doing hypnotherapy for my clients, and covering a wide variety
of subjects to help you understand the power of the subconscious mind and how hypnosis
is being used today to help people achieve success, happiness, and prosperity. You'll
hear from guests about how they have used hypnosis for such areas as quitting smoking,
weight loss, dealing with fears and anxiety, increasing confidence, letting go of
negative habits and much much more...Tune in to check out this new fascinating show!

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:52 AM UTC

My Essays in Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts
CONGRATS to my fellow writers & 13 Minutes mag on our book, PHO FOR LIFE: A MELTING
POT OF THOUGHTS! Check out the reviews on Amazon and a clip from my essay, BREAKING
In junior high, Harry Kim, who was my puppy love crush in eighth grade, wrote in
my yearbook, "Don't ever let anyone change who you are." Wow, wise words from
a thirteen year old that are still applicable today. He could not return my affections
so found a way to share his sentiments in a kind and thoughtful manner. The journey
of love is ultimately about acceptance and love of yourself. In a very simple way,
his words served as a reminder throughout life to persist in becoming the person
I was born to be, love myself for who I am, and be loved exactly as I am as well.

We are all fools in love! From birth to adulthood, love will test us, exhume us,
entangle us, consume us, and enrapture us. The necessity to love and be loved is
a universal and perpetual desire among all human beings on this planet. From the
moment we exit our mother's womb, we are yearning for the feeling of being whole
again, to be a part of something or someone. So our lesson in life is to learn how
to love ourselves, and then to share that love with someone wholly, fully, and completely.

So how do you break the desperation of wanting to be loved or love another so you
can wait for the real deal? Fill your life with a career you love, people who love
and respect you, friends who aren't haters and genuinely want the best for you,
and passions that fulfill your heart and soul and get you up in the morning. Fill
your life with love and passion about who you are, who you're surrounded by, and
what you do, and love will find you! You don't want to be the one of many; you
want to be the one and only in someone's life. Realize you're someone special, and
then go after your dreams and make your life special. Everyone deserves real, long-lasting
love, so by facing the truth and realities of love, and loving yourself, you will
achieve it. Let the reality of love be your happily ever after. Love is the greatest
adventure in life!

Now go for it!

A Melting Pot of Thoughts is a collection of poems and stories reminding us that
- in the end - love conquers all.
Check in my store purchase the book at a reader discount! Thanks for being a part of my journey and celebrating this accomplishment with me!

"What a revelation to discover the resonant and enlightening experiences shared
in this inspirational work! "Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts" includes
contributions from a virtual "Who's Who" of prominent and emerging talent in the
fields of literature, the arts, culture, media, education, and entertainment...Asian
Americans who are making their mark in our society and allowing their fresh, authentic
voices to be heard. As an examination into the hearts, thoughts, and state of
"Asian America" today, this anthology should be required reading in higher education
syllabi and in government circles." - Audrey Tejada
"There's something for everyone in this artistically-designed anthology. Whether
you look for heartwarming stories that rekindle your spirit, or tales that reconnect
you with your past so that you may go forward, or you just want to let your mind
intertwined in the words of the writers and let them take you on their life journey,
you'll find what you're searching for here." - MG

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:51 AM UTC


I was thinking of the magic of the holidays and how this time of year always seems
to get people in the right frame of mind to love, enjoy life, and be happy. Lots
of people are suffering, lots of people are struggling, but lots of the those same
people are keeping a positive frame of mind and believing that life will get better,
and it will. They keep believing that this too shall pass, and it always does.

I remember when my family first immigrated to the United States. My father was already
working as a doctor in Taiwan and my mother was a fashion designer and teacher,
but both had to start their lives and careers all over when moving to the United
States. Dad had to redo his residency here, another 4 years of schooling, to satisfy
the requirements asked of him of the U.S. medical boards. Can you imagine already
going through 8 years of medical school and residency in Taiwan and having to endure
another four years of residency! You do the math. I was only two when we immigrated
here and my parents always told me life was hard. Residents didn't earn that much
money, perhaps $700 a month at that time in 1970's, and half of that was sent back
to my paternal grandparents to support them. We were a family of four living off
of a salary of $400 a month to pay for food, clothing, and the basic necessities
to survive. It was tough living just on a very meager salary. My memory of that
time was of moments and emotions. I remember that every weekend, our treat for the
week was eating at McDonalds because that's all we could afford. We didn't have
a car, so we had to walk almost a mile every day to get our groceries. My mom would
put my sister Shirley in the stroller, and I would walk by her side, precariously,
all the way to the grocery store. My little three year old legs could barely keep
up while we were walking, and I remembered my mom and I always keeping our heads
down for fear of making eye contact with others, since we were shy, didn't speak
English, and people stared at us since we were minorities in a predominantly white
neighborhood in Missouri. Racism did exist in that part of the world, and we were
foreign people in a foreign country, and looked different than everyone else. It
was especially hard for my dad and mom, not knowing the language well, without
many friends or a community, and raising two kids, while my father was at the hospital
all day and moonlighting at night to make more money to support our family.

But the great thing is, not once did I hear my parents complain about our lives.
They always let us remember how lucky we were, how much we already had, how what
we were experiencing, though difficult, was temporary. And this too, shall pass.
I remember how creative my mother was with activities for me to do. We drew pictures,
an object for every letter of the alphabet, painted, played in the park, and found
very creative ways to entertain ourselves since we didn't have extra money to spend.
Life was simple and very fulfilling in many ways. Times were hard, but we didn't
lose faith. My father and mother never lost faith in themselves, and their dreams
to make a good life for themselves and their family. They followed their dreams
all the way from the East to the West, and never stopped believing. They had a vision
and stuck to it, even being naturalized as U.S. citizens when I turned nine, fulfilling
one of their American dreams as well! No matter what life threw at them, they found
a way to overcome life's challenges, survive, and even thrive.

So no matter what is going on for you this holiday season, just know that everything
will be OK. This too shall pass, and you will find a way to get through the hardship
and break through to real love, happiness, success, and prosperity. Whatever you
desire will become yours if you envision it, believe it, and dream it. Whatever
you can see in your mind and believe, you can achieve! Life is whatever you make
of it and the world is at your fingertips!

Enjoy the magic of this holiday season and from my family to yours, wishing you
much peace, prosperity, power, and prosperity for the New Year, and all the love
and luck you desire in life! I am always here for you!

All the Best in life and love,
Panney Wei, C.Ht.

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Date: 5/18/2011 7:56 AM UTC


I had an epiphany today. It is, that if I slow down just a little, I will feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, and more happy, more stable, and even more faithful about my future. Why did this epiphany come now? Because I'm a mother and a working mother and I was trying so hard to keep up my usual pace of life, but I realized that it is impossible when you have a baby and no nanny, and still trying to work at the same time.

I was thinking about all the other working moms in the world and thinking "How do they do it?" After talking to other moms, I realized that they all work, but they all have a nanny as well to help out. It is impossible to work and be a well-functioning, present mother as well for your child without extra help or a nanny. Something needs to be sacrificed. The last thing you want to sacrifice is your child's happiness and care.

So I decided to slow down a bit. Slowing down moreso in my mind, than in my actions. By doing that, I was able to be more present for my daughter, feel happier in my heart, and feel like I am really revelling in each moment by moment in my life. Slowing down a little actually increased my faith. I actually know and believe that everything will be done in due time. I will get my first book published. I will find time to write. I will be able to work in my book and get it done because I believe in it so much. And I believe in myself.

Slowing down a little allowed me to catch happy moments with my daughter that I might normally miss. Slowing down allowed me to make sure that each day, I made sure I smiled at my daughter, and was happy to see her, so that she knew how much she was loved. That love will go far in shaping who she is and her self-esteem as a little girl. That love will fill her up and provide a strong foundation for her when she becomes an adult in the world and is on her own.

Sometimes I feel like I should do more. I should work more, work harder, do more, do it longer. Recently, I was named a recipient of the 2011 Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business Award and a nominee for the 2011 Los Angeles Business Journal's Women Making a Difference Award. Amazing I say....I am so honored and humbled by the award and nomination. It only fueled my desire to do more, keep working hard, keep writing, get my self-help book on attracting love published. Truth is, I realized that these awards are just signs from the universe that I'm on the right track. I'm going in the right direction. I should be sharing what I know and whatever wisdom I've acquired along the way to help others, and keep doing that.

So I'm happy for these experiences. I'm happy that I'm being challenged in y life and in the workplace. I'm happy for the challenges being a mom and trying to keep up with my active child and adjusting to parenthood. I'm happy for all of it. And I'm happy that I can keep my eye on the prize and keep the faith even though I've slowed down a bit. Just because i've slowed down doesn't mean I've lost my touch or lost my mojo. My mojo is still there. I've just got to work harder to light the spark in it again. Or best case scenario, the other alternative is to just surrender to God and let things happen.

I think all of us could slow down once in a while. You don't need a child to do that and you don't need a nanny. You just need to be mindful of slowing down once in awhile so you can savor life. Savor all its subtleties and nuances, and don't miss a beat and don't miss a thing. Slow down so you don't regret anything in life. Slow down so you can sift through it all and watch what happens.

Now go do it. Haha! Slow down.......

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Date: 2/2/2011 12:07 AM UTC


Happy Chinese New Year! Gong Xi Fa Cai! A brand new year is in store and I'm so excited to see what will come next. Last year was the tumultuous year of the Tiger, a year of great change, so this year, the Year of the Rabbit, will welcome more peace and prosperity and happiness! Thank goodness! For those of you who don't know about Chinese new year, it falls this year on February 3, 2011. Chinese New Year starts with the New Moon on the first day of the new year and ends on the full moon 15 days later. The 15th day of the new year is called the Lantern Festival, which is celebrated at night with lantern displays and children carrying lanterns in a parade. The Chinese calendar is based on a combination of lunar and solar movements. The lunar cycle is about 29.5 days. In order to "catch up" with the solar calendar the Chinese insert an extra month once every few years (seven years out of a 19-yearcycle). This is the same as adding an extra day on leap year. This is why, according to the solar calendar, the Chinese New Year falls on a different date each year. New Year's Eve and New Year's Day are celebrated as a family affair, a time of reunion and thanksgiving. The celebration was traditionally highlighted with a religious ceremony given in honor of Heaven and Earth, the gods of the household and the family ancestors. The sacrifice to the ancestors, the most vital of all the rituals, united the living members with those who had passed away. Departed relatives are remembered with great respect because they were responsible for laying the foundations for the fortune and glory of the family. So Happy Chinese new year! Fun, friends, frolic and food is what this celebration is all about. The spirit underlying the diverse celebrations of the Chinese New Year is a sincere wish of peace and happiness for the family members and friends.


The Chinese New Year has a great history. In our past, people lived in an agricultural society and worked all year long. They only took a break after the harvest and before the planting of seeds. This happens to coincide with the beginning of the lunar New Year.

The Chinese New Year is very similar to the Western one, rich in traditions, folklores and rituals. It has been said that it is a combination of the Western Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year. This is hardly an exaggeration!
The origin of the Chinese New Year itself is centuries old - in fact, too old to actually be traced. It is popularly recognized as the Spring Festival and celebrations last 15 days. Preparations tend to begin a month before the date of the Chinese New Year (similar to a Western Christmas). During this time people start buying presents, decoration materials, food
and clothing. A huge clean-up gets underway days before the New Year, when Chinese houses are cleaned from top to bottom. This ritual is supposed to sweep away all traces of bad luck. Doors and windowpanes are often given a new coat of paint, usually red, then decorated with paper cuts and couplets with themes such as happiness, wealth and longevity printed on them.

The eve of the New Year is perhaps the most exciting part of the holiday, due to the anticipation. Here, traditions and rituals are very carefully observed in everything from food to clothing. Dinner is usually a feast of seafood and dumplings, signifying different good wishes. Delicacies include prawns, for liveliness and happiness, dried oysters ( ho xi), for all things good, fish dishes or Yau-Yu to bring good luck and prosperity, Fai-chai (Angel Hair), an edible hair-like seaweed to bring prosperity, and dumplings boiled in water (Jiaozi) signifying a long-lasting good wish for a family. It is customary to wear something red as this colour is meant to ward off evil spirits. But black and white are frowned upon, as these are associated with mourning. After dinner, families sit up for the night playing cards, board games or watching television programmes dedicated to the occasion. At midnight, fireworks light up the sky. On the day itself, an ancient custom called Hong Bao, meaning Red Packet, takes place. This involves married couples giving children and unmarried adults money in red envelopes. Then the family begins to say greetings from door to door, first to their relatives and then to their neighbours. Like the Western saying "let bygones be bygones," at Chinese New Year, grudges are very easily cast aside.
Tributes are made to ancestors by burning incense and the symbolic offering of foods. As firecrackers burst in the air, evil spirits are scared away by the sound of the explosions. The end of the New Year is marked by the Festival of Lanterns, which is a celebration with singing, dancing and lantern shows.
At the Festival, all traditions are honored. The predominant colors are red and gold. "Good Wish" banners are hung from the ceilings and walls. The "God of Fortune" is there to give Hong Baos. Lion dancers perform on stage continuously. Visitors take home plants and flowers symbolizing good luck. An array of New Years specialty food is available in the
Food Market. Visitors purchase new clothing, shoes and pottery at the Market Fair. Bargaining for the best deal is commonplace!


Even though the climax of the Chinese New Year, Nian, lasts only two or three days including the New Year's Eve, the New Year season extends from the mid-twelfth month of the previous year to the middle of the first month of the new year. A month from the New Year, it is a good time for business. People will pour out their money to buy presents, decoration material, food and clothing. Transportation department, railroad in particular, is nervously waiting for the onslaught of swarms of travelers who take their days off around the New Year to rush back home for a family reunion from all parts of the country.

Days before the New Year, every family is busy giving its house a thorough cleaning, hoping to sweep away all the ill-fortune there may have been in the family to make way for the wishful in-coming good luck. People also give their doors and window-panes a new paint, usually in red color. They decorate the doors and windows with paper-cuts and couplets with the very popular theme of "happiness", "wealth", "longevity" and "satisfactory marriage with more children". Paintings of the same theme are put up in the house on top of the newly mounted wall paper. In the old days, various kinds of food are tributed at the altar of ancestors.

The Eve of the New Year is very carefully observed. Supper is a feast, with all members coming together. One of the most popular course is jiaozi, dumplings boiled in water. "Jiaozi" in Chinese literally mean "sleep together and have sons", a long-lost good wish for a family. After dinner, it is time for the whole family to sit up for the night while having fun playing cards or board games or watching TV programs dedicated to the ocassion. Every light is supposed to be kept on the whole night. At midnight, the whole sky will be lit up by fireworks and firecrackers make everywhere seem like a war zone. People's excitement reach its zenith.

Very early the next morning, children greet their parents and receive their presents in terms of cash wrapped up in red paper packages from them. Then, the family start out to say greetings from door to door, first their relatives and then their neighbors. It is a great time for reconciliation. Old grudges are very easily cast away during the greetings. The air is permeated with warmth and friendliness. During and several days following the New Year's day, people are visiting each other, with a great deal of exchange of gifts. The New Year atmosphere is brought to an anti-climax fifteen days away where the Festival of Lanterns sets in. It is an occasion of lantern shows and folk dances everywhere. One typical food is the Tang Yuan, another kind of dumplings made of sweet rice rolled into balls and stuffed with either sweet or spicy fillings.


A placid year, very much welcomed and needed after the ferocious year of the Tiger. We should go off to some quiet spot to lick our wounds and get some rest after all the battles of the previous year.

Good taste and refinement will shine on everything and people will acknowledge that persuasion is better than force. A congenial time in which diplomacy, international relations and politics will be given a front seat again. We will act with discretion and make reasonable concessions without too much difficulty.

A time to watch out that we do not become too indulgent. The influence of the Rabbit tends to spoil those who like too much comfort and thus impair their effectiveness and sense of duty.

Law and order will be lax; rules and regulations will not be rigidly enforced. No one seems very inclined to bother with these unpleasant realities. They are busy enjoying themselves, entertaining others or simply taking it easy. The scene is quiet and calm, even deteriorating to the point of somnolence. We will all have a tendency to put off disagreeable tasks as long as possible

Money can be made without too much labor. Our life style will be languid and leisurely as we allow ourselves the luxuries we have always craved for. A temperate year with unhurried pace. For once, it may seem possible for us to be carefree and happy without too many annoyances.

A person born in the year of the Rabbit possesses one of the most fortunate of the twelve animal signs. The Rabbit, or Hare as he is referred to in Chinese mythology, is the emblem of longevity and is said to derive his essence from the Moon.

The Rabbit symbolizes graciousness, good manners, sound counsel kindness and sensitivity to beauty. His soft speech and graceful and nimble ways embody all the desirable traits of a successful diplomat or seasoned politician.
Likewise, a person born under this sign will lead a tranquil life, enjoying peace, quiet and a congenial environment. He is reserved and artistic and possesses good judgment. His thoroughness will also make him a good scholar. He will shine in the fields of law, politics and government.But he is also inclined to be moody; at such times he appears detached from his environment or indifferent to people.

The Rabbit is extremely lucky in business and monetary transactions. Astute at striking bargains, he can always pop up with a suitable proposal or alternative to benefit himself. His sharp business acumen, coupled with his knack for negotiation, will ensure him a fast rise in any career. The Rabbit usually has impeccable manners. He seldom uses harsh words and will never resort to foul language or vulgarisms to bring home a point. There is little need to anyway, as he has his own techniques. The Rabbit could hide under this cloak of decency to undermine his opponents. His credentials are usually flawless or at least in good order. He will wine and dine you in the best places and cater to your every whim when he is after something. Then, when you have eaten your fill and are puffing away contentedly at that expensive cigar, he will pull out the contract for you to sign. Before you know it, he has cut you off at the knees. He was so deft, you didn't even feel any pain. It was all over with the stroke of a pen. My sympathies are with you, friend. You are just another victim of the incomparable Hare. Now do you understand why Bugs Bunny always gets his carrots in all those cartoon strips?

The well-groomed Rabbit is most compatible with those born in the Sheep year. They will share the same good taste and love of material comforts. Equally well suited will be a relationship with the Dog person or the honest, unimposing Boar native. The Rat, Dragon, Monkey, Ox, Snake and Rabbit will make good secondary matches for him. But he will not be able to tolerate the vanity or criticism of the Rooster, is unimpressed by the dramatics of the Tiger and unappreciative of the quick-tempered and mercurial ways of the Horse.

To sum it up, the Hare simply leaps over obstacles in his path and recovers from calamities with remarkable resilience. No matter how he is tossed, he lands on his feet. He may not be close to his family but will make every effort to provide them with the best of everything. His soft, vulnerable-looking exterior is protected by an armor of cautiousness and sagacity. In life, the Rabbit will avoid being drawn into conflict at any cost, unless, of course, it affects him directly, at which time he will take the appropriate measures to protect his interests.
There is no great inner struggle in the Rabbit's heart between the forces of good and evil. He believes in his own ability to survive, relies on his own judgment and is at peace with himself. His is the sign most apt to find happiness and contentment. Go Rabbits!

Perhaps we should follow the characteristics of the Rabbit for 2011: seek peace, happiness, contentment in life, and hold no grudges. Take things easy and flow into life with the belief that you can and will receive all that you desire as things come easily to the Hare. I wish you all the best this Chinese New Year! May you dance to the tune of happiness and prosperity this Chinese new year! To quote William Arthur Ward:This bright new year is given me To live each day with zest To daily grow and try to be My highest and my best!

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Date: 6/10/2010 2:24 AM UTC


"Life's demands may not slow up any time soon,and learning life balance is an ongoing art.If you think one day you will get it all done,and then you can relax, you are bound to be disappointed."
As we move up the success ladder of life, we may sometimes find ourselves full of more responsiblity and not enough time for ourselves. Like any addiction, if we consume ourselves even with work, it can bound to reap negative effects on our well-being especially if we don't take time to strike a balance and do something other than work that brings us fulfillment as well. Some of you may be lucky that you're doing what you love, so each day is pretty much a blessed day because you're serving your life purpose and doing something you enjoy. But even you need a little break sometimes to recharge your batteries so you can return to your job with more vigor, creativity and even new ideas!
That's why creating better work-life balance is always a good thing in the long run. You will get to enjoy all the rewards your hard work has been able to provide for you! Let's first define what work-life balance is not.
Work-Life Balance does not mean an equal balance. Trying to schedule an equal number of hours for each of your various work and personal activities is usually unrewarding and unrealistic. Life is and should be more fluid than that.

Your best individual work-life balance will vary over time, often on a daily basis. The right balance for you today will probably be different for you tomorrow. The right balance for you when you are single will be different when you marry, or if you have children; when you start a new career versus when you are nearing retirement.
There is no perfect, one-size fits all, balance you should be striving for. The best work-life balance is different for each of us because we all have different priorities and different lives.
However, at the core of an effective work-life balance definition are two key everyday concepts that are relevant to each of us. They are daily Achievement and Enjoyment, ideas almost deceptive in their simplicity.

Engraining a fuller meaning of these two concepts takes us most of the way to defining a positive Work-Life Balance. Achievement and Enjoyment answer the big question "Why?" Why do you want a better income...a new house...the kids through college...to do a good job today...to come to work at all?
Most of us already have a good grasp on the meaning of Achievement. But let's explore the concept of Enjoyment a little more. As part of a relevant Work-Life Balance definition, enjoyment does not just mean "Ha-Ha" happiness. It means Pride, Satisfaction, Happiness, Celebration, Love, A Sense of Well Being ...all the Joys of Living.
Achievement and Enjoyment are the front and back of the coin of value in life. You can't have one without the other, no more than you can have a coin with only one side. Trying to live a one sided life is why so many "Successful" people are not happy, or not nearly as happy as they should be. You cannot get the full value from life without BOTH Achievement and Enjoyment. Focusing on Achievement and Enjoyment every day in life helps you avoid the "As Soon As Trap", the life dulling habit of planning on getting around to the joys of life and accomplishment "as soon as...."
"You know, I just want to achieve something today and I want to enjoy something today. And if I do both of those things today, I'm going to have a pretty good day. And if I do both of those things every day, for the rest of my life... I'm going to have a pretty good life."
And I think that's true for all of us. Life will deliver the value and balance we desire ...when we are achieving and enjoying something every single day...in all the important areas that make up our lives. As a result, a good working definition of Work-Life Balance is:
Meaningful daily Achievement and Enjoyment in each of my four life areas of most people's concern: Work, Family, Friends and Self.

Ask yourself now, when was the last time you Achieved AND Enjoyed something at work? What about Achieved AND Enjoyed with your family; your friends? And how recently have you Achieved AND Enjoyed something just for you?
Why not take 20 minutes on the way home from work and do something just for yourself? And when you get home, before you walk in the door, think about whether you want to focus on achieving or enjoying at home tonight. Then act accordingly when you do walk in the door.

At work you can create your own best Work-Life Balance by making sure you not only Achieve, but also reflect the joy of the job, and the joy of life, every day. If nobody pats you on the back today, pat yourself on the back. And help others to do the same.When you do, when you are a person that not only gets things done, but also enjoys the doing, it attracts people to you. They want you on their team and they want to be on your team.

Simple concepts. And once you focus on them as key components of your day, they are not that hard to implement. So, make it happen, for yourself, your family and all the important individuals you care about...every day for the rest of your life... Achieve and Enjoy every day of your life!

Rock on!


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