A Panney For Your Thoughts

Sharing Wisdom, Inspiration, Tips on Personal & Professional Transformation So You Can Reach Your Potential and Create the Life of Your Dreams 
 by Panney Wei, C.Ht.

Date: 3/1/2016 10:02 AM UTC

 
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Conquering the New Year
By Panney Wei, C.Ht.
CEO, See the Way Consulting
www.panneywei.com

Happy Lunar New Year! This year is the year of the Fire Monkey which means it’s going to be a year of great movement, change, and hopefully like the monkey, full of surprises and a plethora of positivity that will help boost you the next level! To take advantage of this year, make lasting change, and get it started on the right track, here are some tips from my own life to inspire you to make this year one of your best years yet! Part of my work as a hypnotherapist/executive life coach and spiritual teacher is to pass on whatever wisdom I’ve gained in my life experience so that it may benefit future generations. I truly hope these tips can inspire and give you the courage to reach your dreams, your goals big or small, and achieve the life you’ve always imagined for yourself, your family, and future generations, and in time, pay it forward as well.  

Tip #1: Face your Challenges
When you’re faced with formidable obstacles and it seems like life has crashed down all around you, or you feel weak, and cannot see the light or breakthrough, remember that deep inside you, everyone has hidden reserves of energy, strength, and the determination to get through anything in your path. We are all faced with challenges in our life. Challenges exist because if we didn’t have them, we wouldn’t appreciate the good times, come to know the difference, and find the balance. I’m grateful for all the challenges in my life.  They have made me stronger, wiser, and a deeper and better human being. When I was in my late teens, I struggled with the life-threatening illness, bulimia. It was triggered by having to quit my skating career after skating for over eleven years competitively. It was my passion having devoted so much of my life to it, but my parents wanted me to forge a different path and so being under their roof and a minor and respecting and honoring their wishes, I had to comply. Because of the disappointment and other factors in my environment at the time, I fell into a depression, experiencing a loss of identity and self, and it was one of the darkest periods of my life. The depression triggered the illness that led to a near death experience that changed my life forever. This was a major challenge to overcome. The only way I could over come it was to change my circumstances, changing my mindset into one that was positive and one of strength, and using the power of my mind and complete belief in myself to scale these challenges and get my life to where I want it to be. It was probably the biggest ordeal I had to overcome at that point in my life. I took all of the wisdom and experience I gained from being a competitive figure skater and applied it to overcoming my illness, heal myself, and coming out a champion.  One of the tools I used was the power of my mind with hypnosis and meditation which allowed me to change the way I felt about myself, change my internal chemistry and physiology and make better choices in living a healthier, dynamic life. It took time, resilience, patience, and taking each day at a time to overcome my illness, but I plugged away at it each day until I reached my goal. This is what I want for you as well. Anytime you are faced with a challenge, the best thing to do is to set the goal in your mind, and apply every amount of fortitude each and every day to your goal. If it is a difficult challenge, it’s important to find teachers, hypnotherapists, therapists, mentors, or wisdom from friends, books, and anything that you can get your hands on to help you reach your goal. Go all in because you are worth it! Even though you must face and experience the challenge alone, you are not without guidance. There is help all around you if you look for it. I promise that over time, you will inevitably reach your goal. What has worked for me as I travel and advance in different areas in my life whether it’s personal or professional is to have a champion mindset. I tell myself I can accomplish anything I set my mind to, and that way, I’m able to face any obstacle with the courage and the motivation needed to transform any negative situation into a positive.

Tip #2: Dig Deeper, Recharge, and Set a Vision
The new year is a good time to dig deeper into the most important areas of your life especially the areas that you feel that have been lacking or not been given the right amount of time, energy, and care into. Whatever you put your mind, focus, and energy into, is where you’ll get the most results. What’s worked for me is setting a vision for the future.  Everything in life happens in moments and phases, seasons and reasons, and timing is a big part of it. But life is also being prepared for when the opportunities show up and give you an opening to boost up your life. You have to be ready for the opportunities. If you set a vision for yourself about what you want to achieve in the future, then you’ll plant a seed in your subconscious mind to know where you’re going and take steps to achieve it. So often people get caught in the rat race of working day in and day out but often forget to check in with themselves to make sure that what you’re doing every day and spending time on has meaning in your life. That’s why taking a moment to recharge is so important. Part of setting a vision for yourself is to allow yourself first to take a moment to regroup and do some self-reflection on the status of your life. Is your personal life to your satisfaction? Are you experiencing some career dissatisfaction or remorse or regret in any area of your life? Is there something missing in your life in any area? The areas that I focus on are areas in my life that add value, meaning, or purpose to my life. Those are: family, professional life, personal life (friendship, health, & community), and mentorship. At different phases in your life, these areas might shift. Perhaps you’re getting married, making a change to your personal life, wanting to date again or start a family, then the categories of your personal life or family will require more attention. If you’re starting a new job or changing career direction, then the area of your professional life will require more effort or attention. You get the picture. Take a moment to do some self-reflection and dig deep within your soul to see what makes you happy, what areas need extra work, love, and attention, and answer those questions I’ve shared here and anything else your heart desires. Meditation helps, journaling, and doing some goal-setting exercises. It’s in those quiet moments of reflection that inspiration hits. After taking time to recharge and do some self-reflection, the next step is to create a vision for the future. This can be simply what you’d like to accomplish 1, 5, 10, 15 years or more from now.  Set a trajectory for the year and an image of what it looks like, and write down your goals. In my experience as a hypnotherapist, research shows that planting a seed in your subconscious mind about the goals you want to reach both in the form of an image and feeling is most instrumental in goal-setting and helping you attain your goals. As I’ve learned being a former athlete, athletes use this technique for excellence in sports performance, and it’s the same technique you can apply to any dream or goal you want to achieve in life. What I’m teaching you here is that whatever your mind can see and believe, you will achieve. So go deep, set a goal, visualize it, and then achieve it!

Tip #3: Figure Out What You’re Passionate about
Shouldn’t everything you do in your life be worth it, worth your time, energy, focus, attention. Time is precious and if you haven’t felt excited or enthusiastic about your life, now is the time to change it! It’s the New Year and the lunar new year of the fire monkey. The element of fire in Chinese culture represents passion, energy, movement, and the fire monkey also represents ambition, adventure, and change. So keep that in mind as you re-focus your life and your goals. Think about your passions, hobbies, and things or causes that make you feel fulfilled and bring you satisfaction or joy. A meaningful life is a life well lived and one with a purpose. Take the time to figure out what you’re passionate about. It can be an organization you’d like to be a part of and contribute to, a cause you’re passionate about or believe in, a hobby or subject you enjoy, or a career or industry you’ve always wanted to embark on. You deserve to be happy and figuring out what you are excited about, gives your spirit energy, and your heart joy are some keys to figuring out what you’re passionate about. You don’t have to do it for a living, but you do have to feel alive, so engage in things and opportunities that add value to your life. Maybe it’s making a difference in another person’s life, lending to a cause you believe in, or balancing your work life with hobbies that nurture other parts of your personality. What works for me is making sure that I don’t take my time for granted. Time is a luxury and time is limited. At the age of 22, overcoming my life threatening illness and surviving my near death experience taught me the value of time, of living up to my potential, the importance of figuring out my life purpose and passion, and having the courage to do it. There is a quote I’d like to share that sums up what I feel about living one’s life at this moment, “No matter what one does, regardless of failure or success, the experience is a form of success in itself.” Life is about trying new things, figuring out what you’re passionate about, and doing your passion. If it doesn’t work out, you can always go back to what you were doing before. The experience is the gift; the journey is the destination, and the most important thing to do is to try new things and do things that give you LIFE, not take away from it. Now go for it!

Tip #4: Don’t Waste Time
We’ve talked about filling your life with passion and purpose because time is limited. When I had my near death experience with my life threatening illness at age 20, I realized that time waits for no one, and your life is precious. When you also have children and you’re with them day in and day out like I am with my daughter and working with children, it really puts things in perspective on how fast time flies. Your youth is an asset. The sooner you can realize that and take control of your life and use time and your youth on your side, the better off you’ll be in the long run. It’s just plain simple facts. We live in a linear reality where day-by-day, time goes by, and death does not escape anyone. I learned that the hard way. It was through my illness and near death experience that I learned this valuable lesson. I chose life, and decided to not waste a minute living my life for someone else, or someone else’s dreams or expectations of me. That was one of the many gifts of overcoming my illness as well. So I would love to impart that wisdom to you. When you’re young, you have more time to cultivate your goals and make things happen. Everyone has dreams in their heart but many people lack the courage to act upon them. I encourage you to rise up and be a leader, be an inspiration and an example to others by acting on your dreams, desires, and goals. That kind of visionary action is inspiring. Ambition in its purest form and achieving goals with integrity, passion, hard work, and patience is the kind of life my family and I live. I see it when my husband produces his films and takes projects from beginning to end, building people, his company, their brands, etc., and working on the many projects present in his life. He recently produced the films Looper, Linsanity about NBA basketball player Jeremy Lin, Sneakerheadz, and his company is putting out the upcoming Snowden this year. Some projects take years to develop but he works on them each and every day, and I admire that kind of resilience and passion. He never wastes a minute in his life. He’s either nurturing his career or nurturing the people in his life.
I want all of you to live a life of passion so that when you wake up, you’re excited about achieving your goals and not wasting a minute! Having dreams is living a life of excellence and living up to your potential. There is nothing in your life that you can’t achieve without the power of your mind and belief in yourself. You might have many naysayers along the way, but as I mentioned before, it’s better to act on your dreams than to be a person who just daydreams and lives a life of regret. The experience and the journey is the goal in the end. No experience is ever wasted. The only thing you can ever waste is the time waiting for things to come to pass. The world needs people with grit, drive, vision, and love for what they do, and the depth of your dream often fuels the potential for your future. Don’t waste time. Take one day at a time to plug away at your goals. Break down your dream into baby steps that are achievable, and give it your attention each and every day.  Just like a baby does when they’re trying to walk. Or from my experience as a figure skater, whenever I wanted to accomplish a new jump, a new spin, or a new routine, I would break it down into pieces and practice every day until it became muscle memory and a part of me and easy. If you don’t waste time worrying about your goals, but instead, plug away at them each and every day, breaking the steps down little by little, you’ll find that you’ll reach your goal sooner than you think! You can do it! Think about the athlete that has dreams to compete in the Olympics. Their attitude is go big or go home! That’s how I view my life and hope you do too.

Tip #5: Fill your Life with People You Care About and Are Worthy of Your Time
There are many steps in the journey of life as you climb up towards your goals. Nobody gets to the top without some assistance or encouragement from others. The climb can sometimes be tedious and treacherous. This applies to both your personal and professional lives.  There will be people who suck the life and energy out of you, and those who add value to your life. In order to maximize your time and potential, it’s best to surround yourself with people who are worthy of your time. These people are the ones who love you, support you, nurture you, elevate you, and raise you up. They believe in you or learn from you, or you learn from them. They are your mentors, your dearest friends, your trustworthy partners, the most intimate or loyal members of your family, and they are your teachers. If there’s anyone in your life that makes you feel less than yourself and less than your potential that you were born with, then it’s time to let him or her go. Only surround yourself with those individuals that are a true reflection of who you are. Because in business and your personal life, you are associated with whom you surround yourself with. So make sure to choose wisely.

Tip #6: Purge the Negative and Excess From Your Life
Being a success in life also means nurturing good, healthy relationships in both the personal and professional areas of your life. As your life expands and you become more successful, life gets busier, fuller, and it may be challenging at times to balance it all. You realize how valuable time is and there aren’t enough hours in the day to accomplish everything. When you start feeling overwhelmed and wondering if you can do it all, that’s when you really should apply this sixth tip, which will help relieve stress and eliminate the things, or even people that might bring you down. It’s time to purge your closet of the negative and excessive things and situations you don’t need in your life so that you can make this year the best year yet! 
Just like we do spring cleaning in our homes, we have to do some spring-cleaning in our personal life as well. Once you figure out your passion and set a plan into motion to make it happen, tip #6 is to look at other areas of your life that might be taking too much time away from your goals. If you’ve taken the time to create a vision plan for yourself and done the soul-searching necessary to achieve that, now it’s time to cut out the excess that can be potentially harmful or impede you on the road to success. This means letting go of unnecessary people, commitments, things, and activities that don’t serve you anymore or add positive value to your life. If there are people in your life that are haters, keep them at a distance, and don’t make them your friend. If you have friends or relationships that aren’t mutually rewarding, look at that as well and see if they need nurturing or letting go. Look very closely and dig deep as to why you attract certain negative people in your life if you are surrounded by negativity in your personal life, and do your best to purge it from your life. Negative people, those who whine, disrespect, demean, complain, and gossip about others usually are not the most successful, and certainly not happy. If you have negative people in your social circle, they will only bring you down, both emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, where it will start negatively affecting the other aspects of your life. Do your best to avoid doing these negative behaviors as well, and associating with people who are always negative and exemplify this type of negative behavior. Just like purging your closet of things that don’t fit you anymore, it’s time to purge your spiritual, emotional closet as well so you leave room for better people to come into your life, more opportunities, and more time to nurture the healthy and good relationships you do have and most especially, your dreams. It’s one of the best things you can do to create the extra time that’s needed towards achieving the goals that are important to you, and nurturing and maintaining the relationships in your life that need nurturing as well.

Tip #7: Have Faith
Faith is one of the strongest virtues you can have when it comes to realizing your dreams. There will be ups and downs but having faith in yourself and your dreams will keep you in the game longer than your competitors. Life is full of tests. Many of these tests are there to determine your character. How you handle challenges, stress, and how you overcome them is a way to determine what kind of person you are. Do you give up easily or complain when the going gets rough? Or are you the type of person that will stay positive and rise to the occasion and power through?  What has worked for me for every obstacle I’ve ever had to face is staying positive, and having faith and endurance through all the good and the bad in life. I do believe that through faith and hard work, you will reach your dreams.

Tip #8: Keep Going, Don’t Give Up, and Believe in Yourself
“When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” On the journey towards reaching your goals, there are usually obstacles to overcome. Nothing good in life, and this is for anything comes with real ease. The goals you want to achieve in life are tough because they’re supposed to be. Overcoming obstacles helps to build the confidence necessary to achieve even greater things and when you are a leader, your challenges will be ever present so you can be a positive example to others. I’m not saying that life won’t have quiet times of respite or amazing moments of joy. But I’m reminding you that life has challenges and the challenges come so that when you overcome them and finally reach your dream or goal, the achievement will be that much sweeter and more amazing. Think about the years of training an athlete has to endure every four years so he can compete at his events and eventually the Olympics. It was the same mindset I had as a competitive figure skater and tennis player. It was that positive, strong mindset that I learned as an athlete that I apply to every area of my life. It’s helped me when I worked in business development, fundraising, getting through school, and goals in one’s personal or professional life. It’s the same attitude you can apply to any area of your life that seems difficult or insurmountable. I always love it when I see my clients, students, and colleagues continue to forge ahead despite naysayers and negative people. It’s important to keep going, stay persistent, and don’t give up. If you are loyal to your cause or your vision, you will eventually achieve your goal. I guarantee it. A good example of a person who did that was Steve Jobs who left an amazing legacy with his Apple products that we all enjoy today. When he first started, there weren’t a lot of people that believed in him. He had obstacles to overcome. But he had the foresight, vision, and insight that he anchored in his head, heart, and soul that fueled his every move and helped him stay the course. He wasn’t going to stop until he completed his mission and dream to change the world. That’s the kind of vision or passion you should have for everything in your life. It’s the type of vision that keeps you going. So keep going, believe in you, and don’t give up. You will make your dreams come true!

In Conclusion
My wish for all of you is to have a truly great year! It’s a lunar new year of the fire monkey and a time of movement, change, ambitions realized, and positive energy. I hope that the tips I’ve shared will help you get through any obstacles in life, inspire you to reach your goals, and elevate your dreams. There’s nothing you can’t achieve without the power of your mind. Remember, whatever your mind can see and believe, you can achieve!  Make this a great year and one to remember!

Warmest wishes,
Panney Wei, C.Ht.


“In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud.
And yet the menace of the years finds and shall find me unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll. I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”~ From Invictus by William Ernest Henley


BIO: Panney Wei is an award-winning writer, TV-Radio host, hypnotherapist, and motivational speaker on the power of the mind and achieving one’s potential, inspiring people to break negative patterns and achieve their dreams in love and life. She is the recipient of the “Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business” award from the Asian American Business Development Center, ASCEND’s Top 40 Global Emerging Leaders award, an Honoree for the Los Angeles Business Journal’s Women Making a Difference Awards and the San Fernando Valley Business Journal’s Women in Business awards, among others. Panney is the CEO of See the Way Consulting, which gives people the tools, wisdom, and courage to overcome life’s obstacles, and essentially see the way to achieving their life’s goals and dreams both personally and professionally. As a mentor, coach, and guide for her clients and tuning into their concerns and identifying the core issues and reasons for their problems, she is able to give them the solutions, insight, acknowledgement, and feedback they desire, and the energy, inspiration, and the courage to manifest their dreams and to not only endure, but overcome their challenges.  Panney is the host of “See the Way with Panney Wei” on Blogtalkradio.com and ITunes for your weekly dose of inspiration and interviews with some of the brightest minds and bestselling authors and experts in our world. Granddaughter to Taiwan Senator Albert Liu and Great Grand-niece to one of China’s greatest statesmen, General Tso Tsung-Tang, famous for his dish “General Tso’s chicken”, Panney continues their legacy of service, serving as a Senior Advisor for the National Association of Asian American Professionals (NAAAP), The National Asian Artist Project, and NAAAP Orange County, Toronto, LA, and San Diego, and Women in NAAAP (WIN!), a national women’s leadership she founded in 2008 to empower and develop female leaders featured in Forbes Women.  Panney is working on her first book on attracting the love of your life and shares her advice on life, career, love, and motherhood through her blog A Panney For Your Thoughts. She is married to Endgame Executive Vice President and Producer Christopher Chen (who recently produced Looper, Linsanity, and Sneakerheadz) and has a daughter, Talia. www.panneywei.com

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:55 AM UTC

Panney and Talia in New APIAVote Ad Airing Nationally on NBC!
HI everyone!
Well, it's been a year since my daughter Talia was born, and we are appearing together
in a new PSA for APIAVote to encourage people to vote in the upcoming election.
You can watch APIAVote's public service announcement on their YouTube channel at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc2vszzwTfI
and help spread the word by sharing the video with 5 friends and family through
Facebook, Twitter and email.
Talia and I are so honored to be asked to debut together in this important announcement.
Please share it with friends and family. APIAVote asks you, "What do you want?"
When you exercise your right to vote, you're taking a stand for your values, your
family and your community.
Thanks to our partners at Comcast, this PSA started airing nationwide on NBC on
October 24, 2011. It will serve as a great reminder for voters to take action on
Tuesday, November 8, 2011 and cast their ballot for many local elections.
The PSA was co-produced by the Center for Asian American Media and Director/ Producer,
Anson Ho, of Arowana Films production.
Whoot! Whoot!

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:54 AM UTC


"Positive Changes with Panney Wei" Radio show on KCAA 1050 AM, NBC News radio & ITunes

Tune into "Positive Changes with Panney Wei" streaming live and podcasting at kcaaradio.com
and Itunes where this show is ranked TOP 100 BEST PODCASTS in Spirituality. If you're
new to my show, Positive Changes with Panney Wei is focused on entertainment, empowerment,
and enlivening our listeners with a motivational message each and every week to
help people thrive and succeed in love, life, career, and health, and live a life
beyond their wildest dreams! We've got NY Times bestselling authors, experts in
various fields, entertainers, philosophers and more! Show topics for December:
DEC. 3: Gratitude unlocks the Door to Achieving and Getting more
DEC. 10: Top 10 Virtues of a Champion and Achieving your Personal BEst
DEC. 17: Interview with Esther Goodhart, standup comedian and currently featured
in the Smithsonian's National Portrait Gallery exhibit "Growing Our Circles - Portraiture
Now - Asian American Portraits of Encounter"
DEC. 24: Interview with Sarah Miller Caldicott, Great Grandniece of Thomas Edison,
talking about her book, Inventing the Future, Edison's tools for success and innovation,
and fascinating stories on how Edison would live his life now.
To listen live to "Positive Changes with Panney Wei", every Saturday at 12 midnight
PST, or download podcasts of the show, click here:Positive Changes with Panney Wei

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:53 AM UTC

Hypnosis Today guest-hosted by Panney Wei, C.Ht.

Whoohoo! I'm branching out to web TV and guest-hosting a new show called Hypnosis Today, the nation's first Web TV talk show featuring various topics on the fascinating world of hypnotherapy. The show will air on hmiwebtv.com and the topics I'll be talking about with my upcoming guests are universal: the fear of success, work-life balance, test-taking or performance anxiety, and chronic pain and life purpose. Look for my episodes of Hypnosis Today which will air very soon onhmiwebtv.com

You'll see me in action doing hypnotherapy for my clients, and covering a wide variety
of subjects to help you understand the power of the subconscious mind and how hypnosis
is being used today to help people achieve success, happiness, and prosperity. You'll
hear from guests about how they have used hypnosis for such areas as quitting smoking,
weight loss, dealing with fears and anxiety, increasing confidence, letting go of
negative habits and much much more...Tune in to check out this new fascinating show!

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:52 AM UTC

My Essays in Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts
CONGRATS to my fellow writers & 13 Minutes mag on our book, PHO FOR LIFE: A MELTING
POT OF THOUGHTS! Check out the reviews on Amazon and a clip from my essay, BREAKING
THROUGH TO REAL LOVE:
In junior high, Harry Kim, who was my puppy love crush in eighth grade, wrote in
my yearbook, "Don't ever let anyone change who you are." Wow, wise words from
a thirteen year old that are still applicable today. He could not return my affections
so found a way to share his sentiments in a kind and thoughtful manner. The journey
of love is ultimately about acceptance and love of yourself. In a very simple way,
his words served as a reminder throughout life to persist in becoming the person
I was born to be, love myself for who I am, and be loved exactly as I am as well.

We are all fools in love! From birth to adulthood, love will test us, exhume us,
entangle us, consume us, and enrapture us. The necessity to love and be loved is
a universal and perpetual desire among all human beings on this planet. From the
moment we exit our mother's womb, we are yearning for the feeling of being whole
again, to be a part of something or someone. So our lesson in life is to learn how
to love ourselves, and then to share that love with someone wholly, fully, and completely.

So how do you break the desperation of wanting to be loved or love another so you
can wait for the real deal? Fill your life with a career you love, people who love
and respect you, friends who aren't haters and genuinely want the best for you,
and passions that fulfill your heart and soul and get you up in the morning. Fill
your life with love and passion about who you are, who you're surrounded by, and
what you do, and love will find you! You don't want to be the one of many; you
want to be the one and only in someone's life. Realize you're someone special, and
then go after your dreams and make your life special. Everyone deserves real, long-lasting
love, so by facing the truth and realities of love, and loving yourself, you will
achieve it. Let the reality of love be your happily ever after. Love is the greatest
adventure in life!

Now go for it!

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A Melting Pot of Thoughts is a collection of poems and stories reminding us that
- in the end - love conquers all.
Check in my store purchase the book at a reader discount! Thanks for being a part of my journey and celebrating this accomplishment with me!

POSITIVE REVIEWS FOR PHO FOR LIFE:
"What a revelation to discover the resonant and enlightening experiences shared
in this inspirational work! "Pho for Life: A Melting Pot of Thoughts" includes
contributions from a virtual "Who's Who" of prominent and emerging talent in the
fields of literature, the arts, culture, media, education, and entertainment...Asian
Americans who are making their mark in our society and allowing their fresh, authentic
voices to be heard. As an examination into the hearts, thoughts, and state of
"Asian America" today, this anthology should be required reading in higher education
syllabi and in government circles." - Audrey Tejada
"There's something for everyone in this artistically-designed anthology. Whether
you look for heartwarming stories that rekindle your spirit, or tales that reconnect
you with your past so that you may go forward, or you just want to let your mind
intertwined in the words of the writers and let them take you on their life journey,
you'll find what you're searching for here." - MG

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Date: 1/18/2012 8:51 AM UTC

"THE MAGIC OF THE HOLIDAYS"

I was thinking of the magic of the holidays and how this time of year always seems
to get people in the right frame of mind to love, enjoy life, and be happy. Lots
of people are suffering, lots of people are struggling, but lots of the those same
people are keeping a positive frame of mind and believing that life will get better,
and it will. They keep believing that this too shall pass, and it always does.

I remember when my family first immigrated to the United States. My father was already
working as a doctor in Taiwan and my mother was a fashion designer and teacher,
but both had to start their lives and careers all over when moving to the United
States. Dad had to redo his residency here, another 4 years of schooling, to satisfy
the requirements asked of him of the U.S. medical boards. Can you imagine already
going through 8 years of medical school and residency in Taiwan and having to endure
another four years of residency! You do the math. I was only two when we immigrated
here and my parents always told me life was hard. Residents didn't earn that much
money, perhaps $700 a month at that time in 1970's, and half of that was sent back
to my paternal grandparents to support them. We were a family of four living off
of a salary of $400 a month to pay for food, clothing, and the basic necessities
to survive. It was tough living just on a very meager salary. My memory of that
time was of moments and emotions. I remember that every weekend, our treat for the
week was eating at McDonalds because that's all we could afford. We didn't have
a car, so we had to walk almost a mile every day to get our groceries. My mom would
put my sister Shirley in the stroller, and I would walk by her side, precariously,
all the way to the grocery store. My little three year old legs could barely keep
up while we were walking, and I remembered my mom and I always keeping our heads
down for fear of making eye contact with others, since we were shy, didn't speak
English, and people stared at us since we were minorities in a predominantly white
neighborhood in Missouri. Racism did exist in that part of the world, and we were
foreign people in a foreign country, and looked different than everyone else. It
was especially hard for my dad and mom, not knowing the language well, without
many friends or a community, and raising two kids, while my father was at the hospital
all day and moonlighting at night to make more money to support our family.

But the great thing is, not once did I hear my parents complain about our lives.
They always let us remember how lucky we were, how much we already had, how what
we were experiencing, though difficult, was temporary. And this too, shall pass.
I remember how creative my mother was with activities for me to do. We drew pictures,
an object for every letter of the alphabet, painted, played in the park, and found
very creative ways to entertain ourselves since we didn't have extra money to spend.
Life was simple and very fulfilling in many ways. Times were hard, but we didn't
lose faith. My father and mother never lost faith in themselves, and their dreams
to make a good life for themselves and their family. They followed their dreams
all the way from the East to the West, and never stopped believing. They had a vision
and stuck to it, even being naturalized as U.S. citizens when I turned nine, fulfilling
one of their American dreams as well! No matter what life threw at them, they found
a way to overcome life's challenges, survive, and even thrive.

So no matter what is going on for you this holiday season, just know that everything
will be OK. This too shall pass, and you will find a way to get through the hardship
and break through to real love, happiness, success, and prosperity. Whatever you
desire will become yours if you envision it, believe it, and dream it. Whatever
you can see in your mind and believe, you can achieve! Life is whatever you make
of it and the world is at your fingertips!

Enjoy the magic of this holiday season and from my family to yours, wishing you
much peace, prosperity, power, and prosperity for the New Year, and all the love
and luck you desire in life! I am always here for you!

All the Best in life and love,
Panney Wei, C.Ht.

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Date: 5/18/2011 7:56 AM UTC

"Epiphany"

I had an epiphany today. It is, that if I slow down just a little, I will feel less overwhelmed, less stressed, and more happy, more stable, and even more faithful about my future. Why did this epiphany come now? Because I'm a mother and a working mother and I was trying so hard to keep up my usual pace of life, but I realized that it is impossible when you have a baby and no nanny, and still trying to work at the same time.

I was thinking about all the other working moms in the world and thinking "How do they do it?" After talking to other moms, I realized that they all work, but they all have a nanny as well to help out. It is impossible to work and be a well-functioning, present mother as well for your child without extra help or a nanny. Something needs to be sacrificed. The last thing you want to sacrifice is your child's happiness and care.

So I decided to slow down a bit. Slowing down moreso in my mind, than in my actions. By doing that, I was able to be more present for my daughter, feel happier in my heart, and feel like I am really revelling in each moment by moment in my life. Slowing down a little actually increased my faith. I actually know and believe that everything will be done in due time. I will get my first book published. I will find time to write. I will be able to work in my book and get it done because I believe in it so much. And I believe in myself.

Slowing down a little allowed me to catch happy moments with my daughter that I might normally miss. Slowing down allowed me to make sure that each day, I made sure I smiled at my daughter, and was happy to see her, so that she knew how much she was loved. That love will go far in shaping who she is and her self-esteem as a little girl. That love will fill her up and provide a strong foundation for her when she becomes an adult in the world and is on her own.

Sometimes I feel like I should do more. I should work more, work harder, do more, do it longer. Recently, I was named a recipient of the 2011 Outstanding 50 Asian Americans in Business Award and a nominee for the 2011 Los Angeles Business Journal's Women Making a Difference Award. Amazing I say....I am so honored and humbled by the award and nomination. It only fueled my desire to do more, keep working hard, keep writing, get my self-help book on attracting love published. Truth is, I realized that these awards are just signs from the universe that I'm on the right track. I'm going in the right direction. I should be sharing what I know and whatever wisdom I've acquired along the way to help others, and keep doing that.

So I'm happy for these experiences. I'm happy that I'm being challenged in y life and in the workplace. I'm happy for the challenges being a mom and trying to keep up with my active child and adjusting to parenthood. I'm happy for all of it. And I'm happy that I can keep my eye on the prize and keep the faith even though I've slowed down a bit. Just because i've slowed down doesn't mean I've lost my touch or lost my mojo. My mojo is still there. I've just got to work harder to light the spark in it again. Or best case scenario, the other alternative is to just surrender to God and let things happen.

I think all of us could slow down once in a while. You don't need a child to do that and you don't need a nanny. You just need to be mindful of slowing down once in awhile so you can savor life. Savor all its subtleties and nuances, and don't miss a beat and don't miss a thing. Slow down so you don't regret anything in life. Slow down so you can sift through it all and watch what happens.

Now go do it. Haha! Slow down.......

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Date: 5/10/2011 10:34 AM UTC

"He Left Me with the Noodles"

I was up late tonight, 3:30am, and thinking about my day. Not sure why I was up but a nagging feeling kept at me, and I just couldn't sleep. The excitement of my first Mother's Day had just wore off, and I was thinking about my family, my siblings, love, my husband, my daughter, really, a whole flurry of mental activity in the wee hours of the night.

You wonder what was floating in my head? Just the phrase "He left me with the noodles." What's that all about? Well, here's my stream of consciousness....I was thinking about my family, feeling warm and fuzzy, and a nostalgic memory of my sister, Shirley, came into my head. Once upon a time, before I was married, I was dating a guy, let's call Tim (name has been changed to protect the damned and un-innocent) and I was the picture of low self-esteem in this relationship. We had been dating for awhile now, about a year, and I knew at one point, the relationship was going to end. He was getting all the benefits, living at my house most of the time, being practically supported by me, (because I "oh-so" believed in his potential and he was a struggling artist- you know that scenario), and was pretty self-centered or narcissistic. Basically, the dude thought he was a bad-ass and acted like one, and the girls dug it. Anyhow, one week I was deathly ill, so sick that I couldn't get out of the bed. I was hit with flu. This guy and his cheapskate ass, did not even lift a finger to help me. He instead just watched me suffer like a moron, lacking general empathy, or just feigned indifference. I, lifeless and helpless, decided to call my sister for help or at least some moral support. Knowing she was busy (we were always all very busy in my family), we know that when we reach out to each other, it's pretty much an emergency. So when I called, she knew it was important. I told her I was really sick and just wanted to share the news, and she, being a compassionate person, decided to haul her ass 40 minutes to my house to bring me soup and comfort me or at least, hang out for a minute. I hung up the phone much relieved.

Tim, like an idiot, just sits there, psyched because he can't cook and someone is now bringing him food. No, moron, the food is for me. Not you, me. I'm the sick one, and you're just sick and twisted. My sister arrived just in the knick of time before I was going to kick out the boyfriend, and he welcomed her beaming from ear to ear. She wanted to stay longer, but felt like a third wheel, so after half an hour left. I was happy she came and spent all my leftover energy entertaining her and after she left, just crashed. Hours later, waking up hungry, I searched the refrigerator for the soup she brought me. Guess what I found. Just the noodles. The bastard drank all the soup and left me just the noodles! How's that for some tender lovin' care? Without a thought, while I was sleeping, the bastard decided to help himself to a big bowl of soup, soup that was supposed to be mine, all mine!

Guess what I did? I, in my totally empathic and compassionate, needy, and lovesick nature, did not kick him out like most healthy, functional, confident women would do at that time. The fact that he left me just the noodles should've been my huge wake-up call, my ah-ha moment, but no, I kept him around for another four months so that he could just torture me more. How's that for some awesome masochistic behavior? Anyhow, four months later, I woke up when the dude started flirting with other girls in front of me, and I realized that this guy was just delusional, and not worth it. I deserved better. Hiyah! I kicked him to the curb. See ya Tim! You left me the noodles, but I got me some self-esteem. How's that?! Hope you enjoyed the soup while it lasted!


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Date: 4/24/2011 3:21 AM UTC

"My Friend Went to a Psychic: Part Deux"

OK, so here goes. Said colleague from previous post went to psychic. Psychic told colleague some truths and half-truths and no-truths at all. Said colleague jammed home, called me, and reported the news. He spent $200 to talk to someone who just told him what he needed to hear but no concrete information to help him move forward to making some of the 'truth's and good news happen. Psychic also told him that he was a bit unbalanced. What?
"I mean, emotionally. You're not balanced very much emotionally," said the psychic. Well, I could've told my friend himself and spared him the $200 cash. The psychic proceeded with, "Ya know, all you need to do is maybe alter your diet and you'll feel more balanced." What?!
Dude, that is so lame. Totally lame advice. And for a whopping $200!? Now, I'm pissed. Truth is, I do half-agree with the psychic that my colleague here is emotionally unbalanced or bankrupt of perception of reality. But to suggest a more balanced diet is only helping the body. What about the mind? The mind and body are interconnected but the emotional unsteadiness occurs in the mind, not the body in his case. Said psychic was onto something but they're not life-coaches, therapists, counselors, or all of the above, so they don't have the proper credentials to diagnose an imbalance or disorder and offer concrete solutions. If I were her, I'd tell my colleague, what about doing hypnosis, or working with a hypnotherapist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist, or seeking a neurologist or someone who works with the mind and brain and has studied behavioral scientist? To just alter one's diet can only change the body physiologically but the mind is a such a complex organ that stores all of our associations, neuropathways, and behaviors, facts and habits, that to neglect that is absolutely absurd.

I'm floored at this psychic because my colleague is slightly naive and would easily be suggestible to such hoo-haw and nonsense. This psychic was no doctor. Had no credentials to offer a practical solution though I, as a hypnotherapist, could've done a better job than this hoo-haw.
So my very naive colleague has taken this psychic's advice and I have kept my mouth shut for if I don't, I could very well experience the wrath of Thor upon me.

Thus continues the saga of Psychic and Friend. No Sage in this saga and none I can see in the future too. And about my colleague? Well, he's lost 2 pounds since his psychic session, and none the stabler. Go figure.

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Date: 4/12/2011 4:24 AM UTC

"My Friend Went to a Psychic: Part One"

My friend went to a psychic the other day. After his session, he immediately came to my house to report to me and share his good news. He was elated but in my opinion, unrealistic. I didn't want to burst his bubble, but aren't psychics supposed to tell you want to hear? Very rarely do they say anything that you don't want to hear for fear that you might not come back. I'd respect a psychic that spoke her mind and said the truth even if it hurt; even if it was going to sting. I'm not the type of person that needs things sugar coated, and I'm a person who's tough enough to handle the truth. Give it to me cause I want to live in this reality and not in La-La-land. But unfortunately, most of these psychics know that if they tell you the truth, you might not come back, and thus, their main source of income just walked out the door (You!)!

My friend was beaming because the psychic kind of fed into his dreams, but the problem was, didn't offer any solution for him to really achieve it. Now I'm not being a rotten friend. I do support my friend's dreams but I also know that dreams don't happen over night and they certainly don't happen by sitting on your ass. After this session with the psychic, my friend has done nothing to achieve it, if not little. So what's the problem here? Half-truths being fed to encourage the laziness in all of us, and psychics catering to dreamers who think the universe will deliver them their dream without putting forth any effort towards it. Hello!! Houston, we have a problem! Do you see how a co-dependency cycle gets perpetuated here? Let me illustrate: Psychic tells Dreamer about the Dream; Dreamer indulges in fantasy but little action; Dream doesn't happen; Dreamer wonders why and goes back to psychic; Psychic reassures Dreamer the Dream will happen; (but maybe forgetting to leave out some pertinent information...i.e. the real truth that will set Dreamer free!). Psychic gets paid. Dreamer leaves feeling great but happy feeling only lasts a quick NY minute. Now we're back to square one. You get the picture.

Now I'm not denigrating the psychics who really do a good job and are accurate oracles and those who do a great job of helping people create positive shifts in their lives. There have been prophets throughout oral and written history from the Bible to Madame Blavotsky, or whatever. Maybe there are some who are the real deal.But I am referring to those psychics who waste people's hard earned money telling half-truths when they should be telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth. It peeves me beyond belief when I see people act without integrity, whether it's friend, foe, family, or colleague. Now this isn't the first time my dear friend went to see a psychic. This is one of the many times he has seen this psychic and many others, and this person keeps feeding him the usual B.S., and I'm tired of supporting heis delusion as well! Most of the time, I don't say anything at all when details of the session come up. Why? Though I believe in divine intervention and I believe in the power of intuition and God's miracles, I also believe in myself. I believe that I have the power to move through obstacles, attract opportunities, and achieve my dreams. I believe I can do it with my own volition. I believe I can make my dreams happen and I have the power to chart my destiny. I believe I will be ready when opportunity comes. I also believe that real luck is really preparation meeting opportunity, so when my chance comes, I'll be ready for it, whether it's the new editor, publisher, or TV executive I'll be working with who will take my self-help book to the next level. I will be ready because I worked hard and I earned it. My book would not happen if I just sat in front of my computer every night and no writing was done. My book will only be completed if I work hard spending time nurturing it, writing every day, and writing consistently and with passion. That's the same for all your dreams. I've attended too many seminars where I see people think that they can just dream their dream into being. The key is to dream but also to DO. There's got to be an action plan in place. I don't think anything worth it will ever be accomplished without a little hard work and effort along the way.

In my world, actions speak louder than words. Words are powerful but words can only get you so far. Words can motivate, but you have to do the homework to followup. I make my living being a motivational speaker and what do I provide as a service for the masses? Power, inspiration, motivation, knowledge, hope, belief in oneself. But after you leave my session, the rest is up to you.

So to my fine friend and to all the wonderful dreamers out there, keep on dreaming, but don't forget that the universe needs you to give it direction as well. And the only way it/God/universe knows how to support you is if you give him a nudge in the direction...you've got to set the path and pave the way. This is not a passive world we live in, passively letting things happen to us. Part of its surrendering, but part of it is knowing that you have the power to change your course any time and any which way you like. Psychics can help but they are only part of the journey, part of the truth; the rest is truly up to you.

Now I leave you with one of my favorite songs from Aerosmith, Dream On:

Every time I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It goes by, like dusk to dawn
Isn't that the way
Everybody's got their dues in life to pay

Yeah, I know nobody knows
where it comes and where it goes
I know it's everybody's sin
You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life
is in books' written pages
Lived and learned from fools and
from sages
You know it's true
All the things come back to you

Sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tears
Sing with me, if it's just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away

Dream on, Dream on, Dream on.....



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